[Assam] Fwd: RE: A Request for Analysis

Sun Apr 1 11:09:35 EDT 2007

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>From: "Tilok Hatimuria" <tilok75 at hotmail.com>
>To: cmahanta at charter.net
>Cc: tilok75 at hotmail.com
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>Subject: RE: A Request for Analysis
>Date: Sun, 01 Apr 2007 14:56:55 +0000
>
>O' So-kai:
>
>Moi gom pai aasw ki hoise.
>
>But we should not say things like 'losing one's 
>marbles' or , 'not-dhila hwa' , or 'seraa-boliya 
>hwa' etc. These phrases aggravate the condition 
>of the victim and are liable to make them worse. 
>When that happens we all lose. We as mental 
>health professionals don't use these euphamisms 
>any more.
>
>This is what is going on:
>
>Some people do not know how to deal with being 
>told they are wrong about something. It is a 
>condition widely prevalent amongst third-world 
>immigrants who, rightly or wrongly, with reason 
>or without, are used to being treated with 
>reverence or deference; particularly when they 
>return to their native lands carrying with them 
>an aura of achievements or wearing a halo of 
>holiness. If such pointing out of being fallible 
>happens publicly,  they take that as a deeply 
>insulting humiliation. Those who do have a sense 
>of humility, and know that they could be wrong 
>about some things while being right about many, 
>are , mercifully immune to the condition. But 
>such immunity is not widespread. Now those who 
>suffer from such public humiliation, real or 
>imagined, often do a slow burn; looking for 
>opportunities for pay-back. Not that it works. 
>Such pay-back, even if possible, produces only a 
>temporary relief; like Preparation H does for 
>you-know-what where thje sun-don't shine?
>
>Anyway, this need for payback, depending upon 
>the degree of intensity, would drive the 
>afflicted to find ways, excuses,  for attacks. 
>Sometimes they go entirely overboard on the 
>slightest of pretexts resulting in what you, in 
>your amateurish words  described as blowing up 
>on one's face ( another fighting-phrase we don't 
>use).
>
>This is what happened here. Sri Humiliated 
>jumped, obviously very prematurely, on what he 
>thought was an opportunity to teach you a 
>lesson, unfortunately aided and abeted by his 
>'sources' back home, who were oblivious of what 
>was going on. Sri Humiliated, farther poorly 
>served by his own feelings of infallibility, 
>assumed, very wrongly, that since his 'sources' 
>had not heard of what was brewing to be a major 
>news item, must indeed be something you 
>fabricated. So being driven by that indomitable 
>drive for pay-back, he attacked with a vengeance 
>and charged you with fabricating what he thought 
>was a bald-faced rumor.
>
>Good for you did not make it up. For if you had, 
>he would have gotten you by your 
>you-know-what's.  Now that the matter has hit 
>the fan and is all over the place; Sri 
>Humiliated all of a sudden finds himself in an 
>even worse position.


>  A person with an ordinary amount of humility, 
>by now, would have admitted that he made a 
>mistake. He could have blamed it on his 
>'sources' like George Bush did to the CIA, and 
>walked out. People would have forgotten about it.
>
>But nooo! Sri Humiliated's infallibility 
>complex, once again, came back to hurt him. 
>Instead of quitting, he continues to put out 
>feeble, laughable excuses and demands. That 
>unfortunately defines the condition of such 
>individuals. We , as responsible members of 
>society  have no recourse but to treat them with 
>a little compassion and not drive them to that 
>proverbial point of no return.
>
>Why does Sri Humiliated continue to assert your 
>'fabrication' was designed to 'hurt Mamoni'? 
>Does he not know that you are a vocal supporter 
>of her efforts to forge a negotiated peace in 
>Assam?
>
>This is even more complex. People like Shri 
>Humiliated are no ordinary, simple people. If 
>they were they wouldn't find themselves in the 
>condition they face to begin with. He needed an 
>excuse to get on your case. So he dressed up as 
>a Mamoni Defender and charged you with an 
>attempt to hurt her.
>
>How?
>
>Simple! You saw how Ram-kai  re-configured MRG 
>in the image of  an ULFA spokesperson when you 
>mentioned her as a go-between or intermediary, 
>didn' t you? Sri Humiliated, like Ram-kai, is 
>extremely distraught by MRG's efforts which they 
>perceive as ULFA-partisan-like. Ram Kai can't 
>care less about saying it like he sees it. But 
>Sri Humiliated likes to fancy himself as a 
>kindred soul of MRGs, a fellow scholar of Hindu 
>scriptures  and a fatherly protector of her 
>political reputation, which he does not want 
>sullied by what he perceives as an association 
>with ULFA or  them Assam independence seekers.


>
>But does MRG care?


>That is immaterial. What is material is what Sri 
>Humiliated fancies himself as.


>
>Thus his  die-hard adhereance to the assertion 
>that you circulated what he saw as a rumor then, 
>even though it is obviously a fact now, just to 
>paint MRG as sympathetic to Assam sovereignty 
>aspirations and/or ULFA-partisan-like; as Sri 
>Kirip-kaiti  did. That in Sri Humiliated's book 
>is nothing less than sacrilegious, if not 
>treasonous, to his India-centric and 
>Hinduttwa-baadi predilections. No wonder then, 
>he is forced, no doubt with great pain, to 
>accept  Kirip-kai's laughably lame excuses and 
>denials. Something, under other 
>circumstanceswould have attacked, with or 
>without basis, due to Kirip-kai's Congressi 
>affiliations.
>
>Such are the conditions of the afflicted living 
>with that slow-burning need for pay-back, 
>revenge! They would go to sleep with the enemy 
>to exact their pound of flesh!


>
>I hope that 'splains things for you So-kai. Let 
>me know if you need anything else. I would love 
>to help Sri Humiliated, but I am not licensed to 
>practice in Ma, only in Mo. But I can refer him 
>to some good menta-health professionals in 
>Boston, should he seek it. The place is crawling 
>with shrinkologists.
>
>Take care and good wishes from the freshly 
>greening heights of the High Ozarks at Dog Patch.


>Xewa lobo.
>
>Iti
>
>Tilok.
>
>(Dr.Tilok Hatimuria, FLAS), DogPatch, High Ozarks, USA


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>>From: Chan Mahanta <cmahanta at charter.net>
>>To: tilok75 at hotmail.com
>>CC: assam at assamnet.org
>>Subject: A Request for Analysis
>>Date: Sun, 1 Apr 2007 08:22:06 -0500
>>
>>O' Tilok:
>>
>>Bhalne'? Moi aasw aaru nomori-jiyai. Dekhisai 
>>nohoy huzoor mohaxoye omukak 'rumor-monger' 
>>xaaji, raizor aagot dwxarwp kori, mwr-pa 
>>koifiyot bisarisee!
>>
>>Can you tell us what is going on here?
>>
>>Looks to me like a psychiatric case. Why do you think this self-appointed
>>Ombudsman of Assamnet  keeps asserting that I fabricated the 'rumor' to 'hurt
>>Mamoni'? Do you think he lost his marbles? Or 
>>is there something deeper we are missing?
>>
>>Morom loba.
>>
>>Iti
>>
>>Twmar So-kai
>>
>>
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