[Assam] child marriage in India

Tue May 6 13:10:58 IST 2008

Alpana-ji,

Thank-you for the word-of-mouth info. Maybe someone  has done research on itfor Assam as well. Atleast in neighboring Bangladesh, which is now home to top, world-class NGOs (BRAC , Grameen Bank) research has been done that even now average marriage age is 14.8 years for girls in hte nation.

SOcial awareness and education of women can certainly play a part. Ofcourse, many in big cities are unaware of what happens in rural areas or even in their extended families.

Rajen-da thanks for your viewpoint.
Umesh

"Alpana B. Sarangapani" <absarangapani at hotmail.com> wrote: 

Hello Umesh-Ji:

I will give you some facts - from what I read and heard first-hand from my elders at home. 

There was a time in Assam (until the 1940's if not the 1950's), when it was a scare for the family if girls attained puberty before they were married. So the family would hide that it happened and quickly find a boy and fix up the marriage. I believe it was called 'Baalyo-Bibah'. 

Like I said, at this time, these things were available online and/or I was working in a library in Assam - I would have given you as much info with stats. as I could - individually, if not thru Assam Net, for copyright/restrictions. 

“In order to make spiritual progress you must be patient like a tree and humble like a blade of grass”.

 > From: absarangapani at hotmail.com> To: umesh.sh05 at post.harvard.edu; assam at assamnet.org> Date: Mon, 5 May 2008 11:54:45 -0500> Subject: Re: [Assam] child marriage in India> > My mother got married when she was 23. She was doing her M.A., could not finish that but did her B.T. during her teaching career in a high school while raising 6 children. My mother's mother was 18 when she got married after she finished her I.A. from Calcutta. But I guess they were exceptions - girls used to get married early in Assam also. My paternal grandmother got married when she was probably in her early teens. Many of my aunts got married when they were in their teens. Many of my friends' mothers did not get to finish college before they were married. Some could barely finish high school before they got married. > > Typically there is no dowry system in Assam. But sometimes it is considered a status symbol to give expensive jewelry, furniture, refrigerator, or even a car to a daughter when she
 is starting her new life. Even an "educated" daughter with a good career may not say "No" to these "rituals", even today. > > Well, this is just part of my genealogy line. To find more on Assam's culture, social customs and history, see books by:> > H. K. Barpujari> Birinchi Kr. Barua> Edward Gait> Rajen Saikia> Manilal Bose> Suryya Kr. Bhuyan> S. K. Barpujari> Birendra N. Dutta> Bhupen Hazarika> > .....and this is barely a list. I wish I had close touch to the publications of books on Assam's culture and history, and/or worked in a library in Assam to get a comprehensive list.> > > > > > > > > > “In order to make spiritual progress you must be patient like a tree and humble like a blade of grass”.> > > > > > > Date: Mon, 5 May 2008 08:09:26 -0700> From: jaipurschool at yahoo.com> To: assam at assamnet.org> Subject: [Assam] child marriage in India> > My mother was 20 when she got married but my father's parents (who would have been 108 years old today) got married when they were
 13. His mother had a child when she was 16 - same as Mahatma Gandhi's marriage.> > > Almost all rural women in Rajasthan I have seen - when they move to work in the cities is that by the time they are in their twenties they already have pre-school age kids. > > > > How about Assam? I think Sankardev had done some reform work.> > > Umesh> > > > Child Marriages> Child marriages keep women subjugated.> A 1976 amendment to the Child Marriage Restraint Act raised the minimum legal age for marriage from 15 to 18 for young women and from 18 to 21 for young men. However, in many rural communities, illegal child marriages are still common. In some rural areas, nearly half the girls between 10 and 14 are married. Because there is pressure on women to prove their fertility by conceiving as soon as possible after marriage, adolescent marriage is synonymous with adolescent childbearing: roughly 10-15 percent of all births take place to women in their teens.>
 http://www.thp.org/reports/indiawom.htm> > A May 1998 article in the New York Times states:> Child marriages contribute to virtually every social malaise that keeps India behind in women’s rights. The problems include soaring birth rates, grinding poverty and malnutrition, high illiteracy and infant mortality and low life expectancy, especially among rural women.> The article cites a 1993 survey of more than 5,000 women in Rajasthan, which showed that 56 percent of them had married before they were 15. Barely 18 percent of them were literate and only 3 percent used any form of birth control other than sterilization. Sixty-three percent of the children under age 4 of these women were severely undernourished.> "Each year, formal warnings are posted outside state government offices stating that child marriages are illegal, but they have little impact."> One man interviewed for the article has seven daughters. He borrowed some 60,000 rupees to pay for the dowries for six of
 his daughters, ranging in age from 4-14. He reported that "the weddings mean that he can now look forward to growing old without being trapped in the penury by the need to support his daughters." (NYT)> Dowries:> Women are kept subordinate, and are even murdered, by the practice of dowry.> In India, 6,000 dowry murders are committed each year. This reality exists even though the Dowry Prohibition Act has been in existence for 33 years, and there are virtually no arrests under the Act. Since those giving as well as those accepting dowry are punishable under the existing law, no one is willing to complain. It is only after a "dowry death" that the complaints become public. It is estimated that the average dowry today is equivalent to five times the family’s annual income and that the high cost of weddings and dowries is a major cause of indebtedness among India’s poor. > A December 1997 article in India Today, entitled, Victims of Sudden Affluence states, "A woman on fire
 has made dowry deaths the most vicious of social crimes; it is an evil endemic to the subcontinent but despite every attempt at justice the numbers have continued to climb. With get-rich-quick becoming the new mantra, dowry became the perfect instrument for upward material mobility." A study done by a policy think-tank, the Institute of Development and Communication, states, "the quantum of dowry exchange may still be greater among the upper classes, but 80 percent of dowry deaths and 80 percent of dowry harassment occurs in the middle and lower stratas."> The article goes on to state, "So complete is the discrimination among women that the gender bias is extended even toward the guilty. In a bizarre trend, the onus of murder is often put on the women to protect the men. Sometimes it is by consent. Often, old mothers-in-law embrace all the blame to bail out their sons and husbands."> Despite every stigma, dowry continues to be the signature of marriage. Says Rainuka Dagar,
 "It is taken as a normative custom and dowry harassment as a part of family life." > > > Umesh Sharma> > Washington D.C. > > 1-202-215-4328 [Cell]> > Ed.M. - International Education Policy> Harvard Graduate School of Education,> Harvard University,> Class of 2005> > http://www.uknow.gse.harvard.edu/index.html (Edu info)> > http://hbswk.hbs.edu/ (Management Info)> > > > > www.gse.harvard.edu/iep (where the above 2 are used )> http://harvardscience.harvard.edu/> > > > http://jaipurschool.bihu.in/> > ---------------------------------> Sent from Yahoo! Mail.> A Smarter Email.> _______________________________________________> assam mailing list> assam at assamnet.org> http://assamnet.org/mailman/listinfo/assam_assamnet.org> _________________________________________________________________> Windows Live SkyDrive lets you share files with faraway friends.> http://www.windowslive.com/skydrive/overview.html?ocid=TXT_TAGLM_WL_Refresh_skydrive_052008>
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Ed.M. - International Education Policy
Harvard Graduate School of Education,
Harvard University,
Class of 2005

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